When I first started writing on this blog we had just come home from Taiwan with Claire. She was two and a half years old. As I write this now, she’s just a couple of months shy of turning six.
I’m not going to sugar coat things and say that these past 3 years have always been easy. Sure, on social media we post the highlights… all the cute milestones, all the best photos… I’m sure we’ve made it look like a non stop party. The reality is like anyone else’s reality… raising kids is challenging, especially kids who have been through as much as Claire has been through. We’ve had some rough, rough patches when we just felt like complete failures as parents. We’ve had tantrums. We’ve had slammed doors. We’ve had tears in the dark.
Sure, that’s all part of the story, but the bigger story is that this little girl has changed our world and captured our hearts. She is a silly girl who loves to laugh. She loves music and wants it on all the time… usually something poppy (current faves are Taylor Swift and Adele) and she is a wonderful dancer. Claire has an incredible natural talent for gymnastics and tumbling… if you’ve been around her at all I’m sure she has shown you her cartwheels. Claire wakes up in a great mood 7 days a week, 365 days a year. This kid bounces out of bed ready to go with a smile on her face. Coincidentally, mornings are really the only times anymore when we’re reminded that she is indeed adopted.
The whole adoption process / journey was such a big part of our lives for so long and of course we still love to follow other families on their adoption journeys but for us, that feels like a distant memory. It just isn’t something we think about very often anymore. There’s no more adopted or not adopted… red hair or black hair… just our kids. A lot of adoptive parents say it felt like that right from the start and on a surface level I guess that’s true but the reality for me is that it took awhile to really get to where that wasn’t a part of my daily consciousness.
So there’s a quick update. There have certainly been bumps in the road but overall, Claire is a normal, happy, giggly, goofy, sometimes irrationally emotional 5 year old little girl…. and she’s got her daddy wrapped completely around her little fingers.